I'm new to this forum and I don't know you, but any person could share your pain. My condolences to your uncle and I hope that you and your kids recover, and that the DUI driver gets his. And for anyone reading this who has ever DUI'd, you need to remember this story next time you're irresponsible to try it.

Peace and best wishes.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family RIP to your uncle, stay strong.

 

Damn man. Sorry to hear about your accident. Highway 70 is one dangerous stretch. I drive that all the time during the summer when school is out to go fishing with my uncle at the lakes in the surrounding areas. We've had plenty of close encounters as well.

My heart goes out to you man. Losing a loved one is tough.

 

Thanks Carlos. Yeah man, I didn't doubt your advice at all since you have felt the pain of losing a loved one also. My daughter seems to find it easier to talk about than my son, although she doesn't seem to be as open to her mom as she is to me. My son hasn't really been wanting to say much about it to me, nor his mom, hopefully he comes around soon and doesn't just let it fester inside.

hondadriver22Im sure your uncle is content with the splitsecond decision you made. Im glad, (and Im sure he is too) that you and your kids are ok. My condolences to you and your family.

I hope he knows that I did the best I could under the circumstances, I tried my hardest to avoid that collision. I am very grateful having the lives of my kids and I spared, I just wish my uncle was still here to be grateful just the same.

Macster33-I got ur message bro and I appreciate it. I'll hit you up sometime soon.

Nor CalDC4-it's hard man, it really is. I mean, I am so very grateful that my kids were alright but the pain and grief of losing my uncle overtakes that almost to the point to where I feel like I am ungrateful.

Like everyone else, I hope that guy gets punished to the fullest extent of law for the pain he has cause my family and I. And rest assured, we will purse the punishment in all avenues available to us to ensure just that.

 

I found this article about the accident



One man killed in Oroville traffic collision



MediaNews Group
Monday, November 01, 2004 -

A Sacramento man was killed in a vehicle collision on Highway 70 south of Ophir Road Saturday.

An Oroville man was arrested for driving under the influence of drugs after his Dodge Dakota pickup crossed over into the southbound lane and crashed into another car. The driver and two other passengers in the car suffered minor injuries, according to a California Highway Patrol report.

The cause of the accident was still under investigation at the time of the report. The CHP report gave the following account of incidents leading up to the accident.

At 9:35 p.m., Richard Fetyko, 28, was driving a Honda Accord south on Highway 70 in the southbound lane at 60 to 65 mph south of Ophir Road. Anthony Fetyko, 43, was riding in the right front passenger seat, Kalani Fetyko, 9, was in the right rear passenger seat and Dezanea Reyes, 10, was in the left rear seat. All the occupants in the vehicle were related and lived in Sacramento.

Anthony Fetyko suffered multiple blunt-force traumas and was flown to Enloe Medical Center, where he died. Kalani Fetyko, Richard Fetyko and Reyes were treated for minor injuries at Enloe and released. The driver of the pickup, Jesse Lee Baker Jr., 55, of Oroville, was arrested and taken to Enloe with moderate injuries.

 

My condolence to you and your entire family. May your uncle "Rest in Peace". Do not for one second, second guess your decision. People under the influence, tend to gravitate toward light. So, any direction you would have went, he would have followed. You could not have avoided the collision. I do not call it an accident, because the jackass could have made the decision to stay sober.
Head on collisions are horrible and usually result in total loss of life. We can say your lucky, but any loss of a loved one makes that hard to see. You helped your uncle regain consiousness and he knew that. You did a wonderful thing in helping him have a fighting chance at survival. Without your actions, he would have most likely died in the car, without regaining consiousness. You did a wonderful thing and your actions were spot on. Your uncle loved you for your help and the moments you gave him. Remember that, always.
Now the "F"ed up part. Even though the jackass made a consious decision to take drugs and drive, knowing he could possibly hurt or kill someone, he will get vehiclar manslaughter or second degree murder at the most. They will never charge him with 1st degree murder w/ extenuating circumstances, which he deserves. The guy deserves "Life without parole" at the minimum. We all see the commercials and hear the stories, so we all know in the back of our minds, if we drive under the influence, someone could get killed. He killed someones loved one and in my opinon, he did it willfully. If i sat on the jury, I would not have a hard time giving the guy the death penalty. For the hurt, the tears, and the trauma he caused, he could never be sorry enough.
Force the D.A. to hunt for the highest penalty possible. If we as a society push for the highest penalty everytime, it will be easier to win and raise the level of prosecution. Fight hard Richard, fight for your uncle.
Love your family and know that every day is a gift. Realize that when we wake up in the morning, we are having the best day of our lives, because we are alive to make changes.
Richard, I dont pray much, but I will say a prayer for you and your entire family.